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Be Royal in your Own Fashion: Act like a King to be treated like one

The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.

As children, we begin our lives with grrat exuberance, expecting and demanding everything from the world. This generally caries over into our first forays in society, as we begin our careers. But as we grow older, rebuffs and failures set limits, which get more firm over time. Coming to expect less from the world, we accept our self-imposed limitations. We begin to bow and scrape and apologize for the simplest requests. The solution for such a shrinking of horizons is to deliberately force ourselves in the opposite direction - to downplay the failures and ignore the limitations, to force ourselves to demand and expect as much as a child. To accomplish this we must use a particular strategy upon ourselves, The Strategy of the Crown.

With all great deceivers, there is a noteworthy occurence, to which they owe their power. In the actual act of deception, they are overcome by belief in themselves. It is this, which then speaks so miraculously and compellingly to those around them.
Friedrich Nietzsche

The Strategy of the Crown is based on a simple chain of cause and effect: If we believe we are destined to great things, our belief will radiate outward, as a crown creates an aura around a king. This outward radiance will infect the people around us, who think we must have reasons to feel so confident.

Throughout history, people of undistinguished birth have managed to work The Strategy of the Crown, believing so firmy in their own greatness that it became a self-fulfilling prophecy. The trick is simple. Be over-come by your self-belief. While you know you are practicing a kind of deception on yourself, act like a king. You will likely be treated as one.

Never lose your self respect, nor be too familiar with yourself, when you are alone. Let your integrity itself be your own standard of rectitude, and be indebted to the severity of your own judgement of yourself than to all external precepts. Desist from unseemly conduct, rather out of respect for your own virtue than for the strictures of external authority. Come to hold yourself in awe and you will have no need for Seneca's imaginary tutor.
Baltasar Gracian

The crown may separate you from other people, but it is up to you to make that separation real. You need to act differently, demonstrating your distance from those around you. One way to emphasize your difference is to always act with dignity, no matter the circumstance.

Regal bearing should not be confused with arrogance. Arrogance may seem the king's entitlement, but it betrays insecurity. It is the very opposite of a royal demeanor.

Dignity, in fact, is invariably the mask to assume under difficult circumstances. It is as if nothing can affect you, and you have all the time in the world to respond. This is an extremely powerful pose.

Finally, to reinforce the inner psychological tricks involved in projecting a royal demeanor, there are outward strategies to assist you in creting the effect. First, The Colombus Strategy: always make a bold demand. Set your value high an do not waver. Second, in a dignified manner, go after the highest person in the area. This immediately puts you on the same level. It is the David and Goliath Strategy: By choosing a greater opponent, you create the appearance of greatness. Third, give a gift of some sort to those above you. This is the strategy of those, who have a patron. By giving your patron a gift, you are essentially saying that the two of you are equal.

Remember, it is your responsibility to set your value. Ask for less and you will get less. Ask for more and you dend a signal that you are worth a king's ransom. Those, who turn you down, will respect you for your confidence and that respect will pay off in ways you can not imagine.

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